In early September before the funerals of the three boys took place the army finally agreed to give me the phone numbers of the other 2 mothers I called them straight away it was such a relief to speak to someone who knew exactly how I was feeling. The mother of the boy who was driving the car was quite distant she seemed to be more concerned about material matters like the fact that the car had been written off,and that he had only had it a few weeks, and also that her sons funeral had been planned for the 14th Sept which just happened to be her daughters 18th birthday and they had planned to have a party,at that stage J.P.s funeral was booked for the 13th and she wanted to know if I would change dates so her son could be buried on the 13th as the three funerals had to be held on different days so that the boys coming over from Germany could go to all three funerals, so I agreed and changed J.P.s to the 14th. there was just something about the woman I just could not take to, not just the fact that her son killed my boy but that she said she was not surprised, that she had been waiting for that knock on her door because he was such an idiot in a car. So that begs the question why did she help him to buy a Golf GTI. then go and buy the same type of car for her daughters 18th birthday. On the other hand when I phoned Christians mum she was totally different she was just like me a single mother trying hard to bring up her 2 boys after her divorce, just like myself her kids were her life, Christian was her oldest just like J.P. she was divorced in 1990 like me she had a son called christian just like me, her younger son was 16 at the time so was mine, we just seemed to have so much in common, but the biggest thing we shared was that our sons both died that night and part of us died to. Her name was Linda and to this day her and I support each other through the hard times, we are "soul sisters" and we will always stay in touch, in the early days we phoned each other every day sometimes three or four times a day, that has gradually lessened but we speak to each other usually once a week, but we know that we are always there for each other. She has came over to Scotland once and I have been over to Ireland once, but hopefully we will get together soon, health permitting, since the boys died I have been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and Linda was diagnosed with chronic thyroid problems, which they are still trying to stabilise, so things are hard at the moment. It just makes you wonder if the trauma of losing the boys has caused our health to be so poor, before the boys died neither her or I were ever ill but since they have died our health has really gone downhill, my G.P.said it is quite possible as both our illnesses are triggered by the immune system which can be affected by trauma. But hopefully I will be able to travel to Ireland this coming year.