In October that year they finally sent John Pauls' belongings home,they arrived in 2 large crates which barely fitted through the front door, the man who delivered them couldn't lift them, the first one he trailed of the back of his lorry, "poor man he had no idea what was in the crates" I absolutely lost it started screaming and shouting at him in the street,my friend had to explain to him what was in the crates, how could he have known what precious cargo he was carrying. When I finally opened them there was so many things missing, nothing of any great material value, but of great sentimental value to me, things like all his photos, his address book,all his cards and momentos he got for his 21st birthday a few weeks before,obviously who ever cleared his room never even considered they might have been important to his family. I contacted the army but they said there was nothing they could do about it. It wasn't till a few weeks later I found out they still had all his personal letters that had been sent to him, they had written to all the people asking them if they wanted their letters back if not they would destroy them, the only way I found this out was because they had written to my daughters boyfriend. I was so angry how dare they even think about destroying anything belonging to my son,I was his next of kin and the sole benificiary in his will, but still they refused to send them to me, I had to end up getting a lawyer to fight for my right to have them returned to me. In november after the inquest was over the next thing was his estate being settled, when I was send a breakdown of what was owed to him from the army I noticed a couple of things I didn't understand, one was a deduction for 45pounds for wages over payed, the other was 240pounds for legal costs, when I asked them to explain this I was told the wages overpayment was because he had been payed till the end of August and as he was killed on the 29th he owed them 2days, the second one was because he had not payed his Naafi account at the end of August and he had not answered the letter they had written to him in September they had taken legal action against him. Talk about making you feel that your son was litterally just a number to them. I managed to make them pay back the legal costs they had taken from him, after all how can you take someone to court after they have died, but they were adament about the overpayment of wages, he didn't finish the month of august so he owed them 2days wages. I'm quite sure if John Paul new how inconvenient him dying on the 29th instead of the 1st sept was going to be for them he would have waited for 2days. So if ever the army tells you that anyone who joins up,that they and there family become part of a larger family "the army" they are talking rubbish, family dont treat one another the way they treated my son.